Disciplining a child shows love to a child. I know that is weird sounding to some but if you look deeper you can understand more. Structure is one thing children crave and it is a parents' responsibility to fulfill that need for a child. Using natural and logical consequences can help build that structure. Making logical consequences get the child involved in what the consequence should be for a certain behavior in order to give the responsibility to the child. Also make sure that the consequence is one that is logical connected to the behavior. Natural consequences are ones that happen naturally in nature. For example if you do not study for your test, naturally you are going to get a bad grade.
When Natural Consequences is not the answer:
1. Danger!
2. Lesson too far off
3. Affecting someone else
"I" Messages
When you ____________________
I feel ________________________
Because _____________________
I would like ___________________
This can feel awkward at first but gets the message across clearly. This method can be used instead of blaming a person directly. You are being critical of the behavior instead of a person.
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